Migs and Alaine

Chronicles of a Happy Married Life

Category: Married Life (page 2 of 3)

Yes, I am childless and it’s none of your business

We live in a world where some people think that they can dictate the best time for you to get married and have kids. Where people are too quick to judge but never wanted to offer help.  It has always been my dream to walk down the aisle wearing a lace gown and carrying tulips. I dream of playing dress up with a baby girl, family trips and even envisioned yearly family photo ops.

Four years after our wedding and here we are sharing one roof with three rescued cats. My vision of having a “perfect family” never happened and I am not sure if it will ever happen. I have been frowned upon by some women when I told them that having babies is not on top of my priorities and was even labeled as a barren woman just because I chose to be childless. While Miguel was perfectly okay with it, I still came to a point when I became too desperate to have a baby. I ditched my contraceptive pills and we even considered adopting a relative’s kid. I was almost convinced that my life is worthless because I couldn’t bear a child. I struggled for months and I am just grateful that Miguel was there to constantly remind me that our marriage still matters to him even without kids. I realized that I should stop worrying about the things that I do not have control of. If I can’t have a baby naturally – then I should just let things be.

Last year, we visited an OB because I had an unusual menstrual cramps. Tests were made and I was told that I am healthy and can conceive anytime (fertile). I had mixed emotions. It came as a surprise because the idea of having a baby no longer excites me.

Two months later, I was not given a permit by our office physician to undergo an X-ray because my period was delayed for more than a month. I was so used to being carefree and not tracking my monthly cycle because I never experienced being pregnant. I was also busy working two jobs. I was helping a friend turned client for an almost pro-bono deal. I thought I was already pregnant but I wasn’t.

Had this happened to me two years ago, it would mean the world to me. I would have been depressed but after all that Miguel and I have been through, I could care less about what people think of me. This is my body, no one can dictate when I should have a baby or if I really should. Because a person who’s truly happy would be so busy minding their own businesses. The people who makes fun of childless couples are people who are inviting you to accompany them with their misery.

I am childless, but I am happy as I chose to be.

Celebrate LOVE month with TravelBook

If you’ve been reading our blog for some time, you already know that Miguel and I had been through a very challenging year and skipped on celebrating some special occasions like Valentine’s day. This year’s Valentine’s Day is going to be extra special because Miguel is already at the pink of health.  I would love to spend this year’s Valentine’s day in a Hotel within the Metro.  I don’t wanna travel that long and deal with our worsening traffic situation.

Miguel and I need some time off and just spend some quality time together, setting aside work and other stuff. Discovering new Hotels is one of the things that we enjoy as a couple. Disconnecting from the real world is healthy and it’s not necessary that you travel that far to do it. Especially that February 14 falls on a week day this year.

Photo courtesy of Sequoia Hotel

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What about you, guys? What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? Let us know by leaving a comment below.

 

 

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Casa de Dios: Review

Have you guys attended a reunion lately? Miguel and I did last December 28, 2016. It was our first time as a couple to host a family event and it was exciting and nerve wrecking at the same time. We wanted a rustic themed reunion and it took us months to find the perfect venue.  Miguel came across Casa De Dios’ Facebook page. We were impressed with the photos and immediately had the venue pencil booked before we even had an ocular.

The owner, Nikko de Dios was very accommodating and patient.  I had to change the date of the event twice and didn’t even feel that he was upset. LOL! It wasn’t my intention to cause confusion, some family members just had some last minute requests that I had to consider.

Casa de Dios is located at 14 Cabrera Road, Brgy. Dolores, Taytay, Rizal. It’s about 30 minute drive from Ortigas Center. We booked the venue from 9:00 until midnight for only Php12,000.  The place is cozy and well maintained.  Ideal for intimate gatherings as it can only cater to 50 guests. Aside from the pool, they also have cabanas where you can dine or have some cocktail while chitchatting with your friends and loved ones. Their family room is big enough for 3 double beds. We took turns in taking naps that day. The balcony is not really child-friendly so, I suggest that  you keep your children off this area.

 

Everything at Casa de Dios is Instagram worthy. My photos doesn’t give this place much justice – you have to see it for yourself. I highly suggest this to people who are looking for a venue for their prenup photo shoot.

They have 3 parking slots so, I suggest car pooling. But if you really cannot avoid bringing your own car, you can safely park right across Casa de Dios ( outside the Memorial park ).

I am planning to hold a reunion with my High School friends and I am considering Casa de Dios for our venue.

Check out their Facebook page to stay updated with their promos and rates.

 

OPPO F1s: Day In The Life

A giant evil monster is about to unleash its most powerful weapon and i’m the only one who can stop it. I quickly jumped into my armor suit, then the alarm clock goes off (god damn it alarm, let me finish my dream).. Watta dream!

So. It’s 6:00 AM. Let me take you along with me so you can have a glimpse of how I spend my day. Along with us is my Handy dandy OPPO F1s to help document our adventure.

I focused on event hosting after I left the BPO industry, and it’s a day and night comparison. I now have control over everything. I can set my schedule based on the lifestyle that I desire.

6:00 AM

I start my day by spending a good 5 mins trying to figure out what my purpose in life is. Just kidding. I just wasted 5 mins doing nothing like most men at my age do. Then I visited the john for some good ol’ 1 & 2. In between 6:30 – 7:00 I check my email while eating breakfast. After a bit of stretching, it’s time to hit the shower.

I have a 10:00 AM meeting with a couple who’s looking for the perfect wedding MC. Why wake up so early? Preppin and driving to the meeting place takes forever specially if you live in the Metro. So, 3 hours of grooming and road hustlin would be just enough to get to my destination on time.

Its almost noon and I got the hosting gig. I am now off to meet with my coordinating team for an ocular. we have a garden wedding in Tagaytay city early next month and I would like to see and be able to project my movements, so
I won’t have to do it on the day of the event. the time is 12:22 PM and this is going to be a long drive.

03:51 PM. We finally arrived at the reception venue, and boy, it was one heck of a sight. I immediately planned my movements and gimmicks for the event. Now we’re going to sit down for a quick run-through of the program over a cup of coffee.

05:25 PM. It’s getting dark and sadly we have to drive back to the chaotic world of the Metro.

Since we won’t be able to make it tonight for some home-cooked meal, we’ll just have our dinner at our favorite Japanese resto before we go home.

I no longer carry a planner notebook with my daily activities. I realized that everything that I need is already baked in on my OPPO F1s. I depend on it a lot. From waking me up, setting up my schedule, taking notes, reading and sending emails, and even navigation. Aside from its kick ass 16mp selfie shooter, I also thank OPPO for slammin this phone with a more than decent chip set. MT6750 Octa-core 64-bit and 3GB ram. In layman’s term, It’s ridiculously fast. Plus 32GB of internal storage is more than enough storage for my daily photos, music and games(when i’m bored), and did I already mention that it’s ridiculously fast?

It’s 9:52 PM we’re finally home and ready to hit the bed. So let’s call it a day.

Til our next adventure. Cheers!

Migs.

Importance of the RSVP

I remember feeling so guilty when Migs and I were not able to attend a close friend’s wedding last year. Migs was hospitalized days before our friend’s big day and it was too late for them to scratch us out of their wedding list. Although he understood our predicament, I still feel sorry because he paid for two buffet plates for us and we weren’t able to show up.

What is an  RSVP and why is it so important?

According to Forbes Magazine, Répondez s’il vous plaît, is a French phrase that translates to “please respond.” It is with this meaning that invitation cards and similar documents are often marked with “RSVP.” It is standard practice to reply to an RSVP request whether confirming attendance or declining.

Our wedding took place in Antipolo City last December 12, 2012. It was a Wednesday and we expected excuses like work schedule, meetings, etc. So, we made sure that our Wedding was announced to our relatives one year in advance and 6 months in advance for friends and colleagues. For some, they even make Save-the-date videos while finalizing stuff on their big day.  We only invited 150 guests but unfortunately, there were still some who responded to our RSVP on the same day of our Wedding despite the efforts of our Wedding coordinators. The sad part is, we still paid for their food even if they weren’t around.

These days, you pay a minimum of Php1,500 per plate for a decent food in Metro Manila event places or hotels. In receiving invites, remember that a couple thought of you first to celebrate their special day with them.  Making them feel that their invitation is not important to you by not responding to the RSVP, might leave scars on your relationships.

If you really can’t make it, let them know at least a month or two weeks before the event so, they have the option to replace you on their list or even save money. Your friends as a couple are starting their lives together and if you can’t make it because of some valid reasons or you’re simply not into events – let them know. It will only take few seconds of your time.

Remember that not responding to an RSVP is just as worst as gatecrashing a wedding.

OPPO F1s: Capturing Philippines

I spent 20+ years in Antipolo but it was only when I got older that I truly appreciate my hometown. I left Antipolo when I decided to become independent at the age of 21. Whenever I come home, I always see improvements in the city that has helped me become who I am now.  I can travel the whole world but I will always come home to my hometown. It will always be my favorite destination. Antipolo City became known because of the Shrine of Our Lady of Peace and Good Voyage and “Hinulugang Taktak“. A lot of my relatives and friends visit the Antipolo Cathedral whenever they have business trips abroad or when they finally decided to migrate somewhere else. It has been a culture for some people to seek guidance on their trips at the Cathedral. It is also the perfect destination for people who just bought brand new cars for a test drive and even “car blessing”.

What’s not to love about Antipolo? The weather is perfect for flowers to bloom but not too cold to enjoy a pool party with friends. The famous Pinto Art Museum where countless numbers of prenup photo shoots took place can be found in Antipolo. The city is also slowly transforming into a foodie destination because of the restaurants and coffee shops that pops up here and there. Antipolo is the best alternative for Tagaytay when you want to have a garden wedding but wouldn’t want to travel for hours. My husband and I tied the knot in Callospa Resort last 2012 and our wedding was picture perfect!

Last weekend, we discovered Cafe Agusta a newly opened Coffee shop at the heart of the city and it’s overlooking view of Metro Manila is breathtaking! I couldn’t help but snap photos. Good thing I have my Oppo F1s with me. I am so in love with it’s 16-megapixel front camera because I don’t need to ask strangers to take photos of Migs and I. I even posted a short video clip of our view on our Instagram account.

How about you? What’s your favorite destination? We’d love to hear from you.

The gateway to Philippine’s historial, social and cultural life

We had the opportunity to experience Zooper Cruise last December 13. It was extra special because it was the birthday of Zoomanity Group’s CEO, Mr. Robert Laurel-Yupangco. He invited some business partners, close friends and indigent kids from nearby areas for a Thanksgiving cruise and gift giving.

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The cruise was short but very educational because we were able to pass by some historical places in Manila. The Captain, Mr. Bondad did a great job in sharing his knowledge with the kids about how Manila was built. Both Migs and I studied in Manila but it was the very first time we saw it’s glory from the river. Surprisingly, the river doesn’t smell awful despite its color.

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The Malacanang Palace is such a beauty. You should see it for yourself too because tourists are not allowed to take photos around or even near the Malacanang vicinity. We were even accompanied by a Presidential Security Guard to make sure that everyone will comply with the policy.

We had a stop over at Polland Hopia – the home of the most delicious moon cakes in Manila! Well, I am being bias because Polland Hopia is one of my favorite comfort foods. Their store have a dining are where you can have tea or coffee while waiting for your friends to finish their hopia shopping.

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When we boarded the boat, the gift giving started as we head back to Valenzuela port. We were treated with a sumptuous dinner at Misono while the kids had their dinner at Dampa by the Ruins. It was truly a night to a memorable day to remember. I always have a soft spot for big companies and successful people who always take time to give back after receiving so many blessings.

Manila is such a beautiful place and we hope that every Filipino especially those who live or work in Manila will take part in caring for the City. We also hope that one day, we can make use of the Pasig river to travel so we help lessen Metro Manila’s issue with our traffic situation. By using a boat, there will be less cars in Manila and it’s also a good way of reminding our selves and the next generation of our history,

If you want to know more about Zooper Cruise, please visit their website, www.zoomanitygroup.com.ph or you may contact them at 899-9819/ 899-9824/0917-9521371. They accept bookings for educational tours, Company tours and events, anniversaries and other special occasions.

 

Benefits of R&R to Married Couples

Have you felt that you wanted to quit your job because of too much stress? Have you ever felt guilty because you can’t even remember the last time you and your spouse had a quality time together?

We suggest that you take some time off to Relax and rejuvenate and we have enumerated the top 5 reasons why R&R is a must to have a happy married life.

  1. Going to a place whether a hotel in the metro, the coast or anywhere that can offer a good accommodation can help you disconnect from the corporate world and focus on the most important person in your life – your spouse.

You do not have to go that far. There are many places near Metro, Manila where you can spend some quality time together. A bed and breakfast or just a dinner date in Tagaytay City will do the work. Just look online for the best resorts and hotels in Metro Manila and in nearby  provinces so you can get the best deals.You don’t have to drive far north to Baguio just to experience and enjoy the Philippines at a colder climate. Tagaytay is the best place in the south to go nature tripping. with it’s friendlier climate, moving around the city on foot won’t break you a sweat.

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2. Disconnecting from the corporate world can lead to discovering more things about your spouse especially if you’re just starting to have a family or if you have neglected R&R with your spouse for very long time.

Life is short. Do not waste it by stressing yourself too much. There are so many beautiful beaches in the Philippines waiting to be discovered. Watching the sunset while lying on the sand is one of the best experience in the world. It helps you to keep calm and relaxed. We’re sure you’ll be more productive when you return to work after a short vacation.

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3. You will discover more places. Try booking an accommodation in a far away place and discover nearby areas. Who cares if you get lost? It’s going to be a fun-filled experience with the love of your life.                                                                                                                                                                                                                     We once booked a hotel room in Makati for four days and three nights and tried almost all the restaurants around the vicinity. We didn’t even bring our car with us, but we enjoyed walking along the busy streets of Makati. Our place is a Two hour drive from Makati. It’s not that far, but there are so many things that we don’t know about the City.

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4. It is the perfect opportunity to learn a new sport. How does learning how to surf sound?

La Union and Zambales are just two of the best beaches near the Capital where the top local and international surfers gather. They even have surfing competitions happening every year. Book a hotel and spend your weekend with the best waves and learn how to surf.

 

photo from Crystal Beach Resort

photo from Crystal Beach Resort

5. Planning to have a baby? Distressing can help in your baby-making journey.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                We have been trying to have a baby and Doctor said we should spend more time outdoors.

There are so many places that are waiting to be discovered in the Philippines. We have some of the Parks, Museums, Beaches, Mountain Trails, Specialty Restaurants and Wildlife, name it, the Philippines got it. You just have to do a little more research before travelling so you know what to expect when you reach your destination. So, what are you waiting for? Pack your stuff, fill that gas tank, bring some snacks and lose your self to the beautiful world out side the four corners of your office. Don’t forget your handy dandy camera to snap some instagramable photos and share it to your friends so, they too will be inspired to travel with their spouses.

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If you’re single and reading this post, this article from Thought Catalog might just inspire you to book a trip to the beach or a foreign country.

How Leaving and Cleaving Saved our Marriage

We attended a Marriage Preparations Seminar before we got married. One of the best topics that was discussed in the Seminar was “Leaving and Cleaving”. This is one of the things that some Filipinos do not practice because we have this culture of being too generous when it comes to family members that we don’t mind sharing our own house with them – we even gave a name to this kind of culture…extended family.

I grew-up in a household where we welcome some relatives to live with us for a period of time (years) while they are studying or looking for a new job. It was fun because I was the youngest then so, I don’t really have a specific chore to do at home. I get all the help that I need aside from the helper that my parents hire, people at home are always there for me. But things got a little tougher when I reached puberty. I started hating a lot of things and sometimes the people around me. I am no longer comfortable sharing some of our things at home.

When my sisters got married, none of them were allowed to live with us because our parents are teaching us to be responsible. They wanted us to be able to experience living on our own.

In my case – I was already independent when I reached the age of 21. I have my own place and a job. So, leaving and cleaving will never be an issue for me. I learned to be independent even before I got married.

When it was my turn to get married (I was 28 then), we were already prepared to start a new life together. We were able to save money for a beautiful Wedding. We refused to accept financial help from any relative because we want to have the liberty of inviting only those who are really close to us.

Two years after our Marriage (when we were about to buy a house), I received an SMS from my mother, telling me about their predicament. There were times when they feel scared to leave the house especially at night because we do not have neighbors. She is also diabetic and she’s afraid that no one will look after her in case she needs some medical attention.

In short, she was able to convince me to move in with my husband. What seems to be temporary almost changed our lives when they offered us to buy the house so they could leave the City and start a new to their retirement home in the South. It was smooth sailing at first but when my other sibling expressed her interest for our house, the issues started to rise. It was difficult and I felt that I was also hurting my husband – he couldn’t move freely at our home.

When we received the approval from the bank for the housing loan, I told my husband that we should think really hard if we’re going to purchase the house. conflicts may arise, because my older sister wants a piece of that cake for free. On the second day of the approval, I told my parents that we decided to just leave and purchase a different house. They were okay with our decision since my youngest brother already came home – someone will already look after their welfare.

We would have honestly saved a chunk of money if we purchased the house from my parents. Considering the value of land nowadays, it was a steal.  Plus, I know every corners of that house since I was a little girl. But, I had to decide to let it go because I value my Marriage. We had to leave before misunderstandings become ugly.

My Mother died the same year. I was the closest daughter to her. I guess, leaving our house prepared me to face such a depressing moment. I don’t have to deal coming home to the same house with all the memories. I wouldn’t have to deal with waking up every morning at the same house where I spent 21 years with her. It will be very difficult to move on.

Leaving our house and cleaving to my husband made me stronger. We’ve been through a lot and we always have each other’s back. Who cares if it might take some more years for us to save up for our dream house? We were able to save our marriage. It is nice to wake up wearing whatever clothes I want at home without having someone comment on how short my shorts are. I can scatter things at my working table as long as I want and no one will ever question why I allow three cats to sleep on our bed.

We chose to live the life as husband and wife – where I am the only queen and he is the only king of our own little kingdom.

Leaving and cleaving is not only for the rich but it’s for the brave couples who can promise to stick together for better or for worse.

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Pacific Cebu Resort – An Island Paradise

Before summer officially end, let me share with you my birthday celebration in Cebu last March. We rented a Condo Unit via AirBNB for 5 days at the IT Center in hopes being able to visit a lot of places in Cebu but we had to ditch our plans because Migs was not feeling well. Good thing, we did not pay for a tour because either our money will be wasted or Migs condition will worsen. We just enjoyed exploring the City. We were able to visit the Magellan’s cross, Sto. Nino Church, Sugbo Mercado and explored few restaurants inside the IT Park. We also enjoyed cooking our favorite dishes from their local market and was even able to buy few kilos of dried squids, fish and of course dried mangoes.We crossed out our plans of going to Bantayan Island and Bohol because of the travel time and just decided to do a last minute booking at Pacific Cebu Resort. I am happy that I was able to book a hotel through my favorite hotel app – Hotel Quickly! Hotel Quickly’s very helpful because you can see actual photos and feedback of a hotel. So, you don’t need to do extensive research when you’re trying to book one ( I am not paid to promote Hotel Quickly – I just love them! LOL).

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It took us 30 minutes to book a cab going to Pacific Cebu Resort because none of the Grab Taxi Drivers would pick us up. Travel time from Cebu IT center to Suba-basbas, Lapu-Lapu City is an hour and Cab meter was Php380 but we paid Php500 because our Cab driver is really nice. He was even surprised that we refused to accept change.

We were welcomed by Pacific Cebu Resort’s staff with sweet smiles and confirming my reservation was easy breezy. The beach is so inviting! I wanted to drop our things to our room and head to the beach immediately. When we entered our room, I suddenly changed my mind about heading to the beach right away. Our room was so cozy and has a cute veranda where we could eat or just hang out. We took a power nap and went out to check their resto’s menu at 4:00 PM. By the way, they have a reliable wi-fi connection too. So, this resort is also  ideal for free lancers.

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There were only few guests at the resort and 90% were Japanese. We were told by one of the staff that the resort used to be exclusive for Japanese guests. I’m glad they opened it for everyone. Pacific Cebu resort is a perfect diving spot according to their guests but they also have two swimming pools for other guests to enjoy.

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I would say that our stay at Pacific Cebu resort is the best part of our Cebu vacation and we promise to come back once Migs is back on his feet.

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