Migs and Alaine

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Breastfeeding and Marriage Difficulties

This post is a bit late for Breastfeeding month.

I had a catheter and dextrose on when Migs handed me our baby so I could try to breastfeed him.  This was few hours after I gave birth and after my son was given formula milk because I couldn’t breastfeed him while I was at the recovery room. Before I was transferred to our hospital room, the nurse said that my baby’s pedia already left a prescription for a formula milk. We still tried to breastfeed our baby because that’s what Migs and I have agreed to do even before I gave birth. Why not? There are a lot of benefits that we can get from breast milk and if my body can produce milk, I’ll feed my baby with it.  Sadly, we received zero support from the hospital staff. We were not taught how to massage the breasts for possible clogged ducts, etc. Although instructional videos are readily available online, getting help from a professional is still a huge thing.

Recovering from my C-Section and being frustrated with breast feeding, I somehow feel depressed.  My son knows how to latch but would only cry whenever I try to nurse him because he ‘s not getting any milk. I’ve cried countless times and have tried to pump milk round the clock so I can feed my baby with breast milk but I am only getting 10ml – 20ml per session. I thought pumping every 2-3 hours would help increase my milk supply. I have tried everything from malunggay (moringa) capsules to essential oils but nothing seemed to work.

My frustration hurt my relationship with Migs as I became a slave to my breast pump. I am always exhausted. I felt that the time I needed to recuperate from my operation were wasted but I couldn’t stop because I wanted to give what’s best for my son.

Good thing one of my friends told me about Arugaan, a support system for women with infants and young children. They have seminars for breastfeeding mothers and they also offer home visits for those who’d like a lactation massage. I immediately reached out to them.

I was visited by Ms. Rhea last September 3 and was given a lactation massage as well as some tips on how to successfully breastfeed.  I was so relieved seeing so much milk while being massaged. I almost cried knowing that I will be able to nurse my son on demand and I don’t have to worry about my supply. I couldn’t thank Araguan enough for helping me especially Ms. Rhea. She was very accommodating and she still answers my questions even after our session.

I have been nursing our son on demand since September 3 and have only been pumping milk 3 times a day – whenever I am working. I get to sleep and eat better now which also means that I get to spend more time with my boys (Migs and Chuck).

If you want to know more about Arugaan, please visit their official Facebook page.



  1. I breastfed my son for just 4 months 🙁 kung hindi siguro ako nagwo work pa nun, baka mas mahaba. Ang mahal kaya ng formula milk. Kudos to all breastfeeding mommas.

  2. So happy to hear you discovered Arugaan. I was able to breastfeed all 3 of my kids and I can atest that the benefits are definitely worth all the stress, tired aching body and sleepless nights

  3. Hugs… I remember after giving, I felt emotional at certain things. I also struggle that first month when I breastfed my kids. Glad that there are many ways and support group for breastfeeding moms today.

  4. respect to all the loving mommies who breastfeed their kids. Ako till 5months lang because ang konti ng supply 🙂

    • admin

      November 7, 2018 at 9:31 pm

      Matagal na din ang 5 months! Achievement na din. Super hirap pag mahina ang supply kaya I have nothing against din sa mga nag decide mag formula.

  5. I was able to breastfeed my son for barely a month. Mahina talaga ang milk supply ko noon, kahit na sagana ako sa malunggay at hilot. 🙁

  6. A support group is wonderful for new breastfeeding moms. During my time , the only person I can turn to was my doctor. My mom did not breastfed.

    • admin

      November 7, 2018 at 9:33 pm

      Sa amin din ng siblings ko. 4 kami, walang breastfed sa amin. Lahat kami formula. Hindi kasi pwede mag breastfeed ang mom ko.

  7. I like the name Arugaan. SHows that it indeed care for the moms and their little ones. I am still tandem feeding my two toddlers and it is the most fulfilling feeling ever.

    • admin

      November 7, 2018 at 9:35 pm

      I can just imagine how tiring it is to tandem feed toddlers but…for sure super fulfilling din ang pakiramdam. 🙂

  8. I had the same frustration when I gave birth. I wish I knew about Arugaan too at that time.

  9. Arugaan has been really helpful to moms no? Glad your breastfeeding journey got better

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