I remember feeling so guilty when Migs and I were not able to attend a close friend’s wedding last year. Migs was hospitalized days before our friend’s big day and it was too late for them to scratch us out of their wedding list. Although he understood our predicament, I still feel sorry because he paid for two buffet plates for us and we weren’t able to show up.

What is an  RSVP and why is it so important?

According to Forbes Magazine, Répondez s’il vous plaît, is a French phrase that translates to “please respond.” It is with this meaning that invitation cards and similar documents are often marked with “RSVP.” It is standard practice to reply to an RSVP request whether confirming attendance or declining.

Our wedding took place in Antipolo City last December 12, 2012. It was a Wednesday and we expected excuses like work schedule, meetings, etc. So, we made sure that our Wedding was announced to our relatives one year in advance and 6 months in advance for friends and colleagues. For some, they even make Save-the-date videos while finalizing stuff on their big day.  We only invited 150 guests but unfortunately, there were still some who responded to our RSVP on the same day of our Wedding despite the efforts of our Wedding coordinators. The sad part is, we still paid for their food even if they weren’t around.

These days, you pay a minimum of Php1,500 per plate for a decent food in Metro Manila event places or hotels. In receiving invites, remember that a couple thought of you first to celebrate their special day with them.  Making them feel that their invitation is not important to you by not responding to the RSVP, might leave scars on your relationships.

If you really can’t make it, let them know at least a month or two weeks before the event so, they have the option to replace you on their list or even save money. Your friends as a couple are starting their lives together and if you can’t make it because of some valid reasons or you’re simply not into events – let them know. It will only take few seconds of your time.

Remember that not responding to an RSVP is just as worst as gatecrashing a wedding.